I figured this would be a good topic to start my new blog on: how much I hate the media, especially in light of a recent event. That recent event is, of course, Kristen Stewart reportedly cheating on Robert Pattinson with the married-with-two-children director Rupert Sanders.I have never been a particular fan of Kristen Stewart. I never know how I feel about her. She has always seemed to stay true to herself, which I’ve respected, but I’m not sure if really like her as an actress. She seems to play the same dismal, depressed girl-in-distress in nearly every movie. What I find particularly interesting in relation to this is the dynamics of the affair, namely how Kristen Stewart somehow manages to be the hearthrob to two very successful men. True, she is topped the Forbes list in terms of actresses’ incomes, as found at http://www.hollywood.com/news/Kristen_Stewart_Highest_Paid_Actress_Forbes/31330760, but I still don’t know what beyond “thrill” (and maybe a big head) would cause an actress with so much money to cheat on one of Hollywood’s most desired young men. And what about Rupert? He just finished directing Snow White and the Huntsman in which Kristen played Snow White and Rupert’s wife Liberty played Kristen’s mother! That’s a bit twisted. Since all of this has errupted, Kristen has seemed to make attempts to define the severity of her “cheating”. In all the downplay, it has been emerging in the media as more of a flirtatious fling than a full-blown affair. Is this true? I’m not so sure (and quite frankly don’t care). To my utter surprise, however, Liberty Ross actually implies that she forgives her husband. In this article on Entertainment Wise (http://www.entertainmentwise.com/news/82987/Liberty-Ross-Forgives-Ruper-Sanders-For-Silly-Kristen-Stewart-Flirtation), Liberty has succombed to this downplaying and smoothed over the creases of what the media has made her husband’s doings out to be. I’m just worried about the kids… “Mom, what does an affair mean?” “Mom, does daddy like-like Kristen?” I can only imagine what they’d say. Surely they can’t help but catch wind of something plastered over every magazine cover in every store. But the media is such a pain. The Paparazzi should be illegal. People bombarding other people’s lives to dig up secrets in ways that would be harassment if you were someone not making millions of dollars… yet, despite how much hatred there is for the Paparazzi, it continues. Why? Because there is a demand for the snooping. People want the gossip. People want to know what she eats to look that way, what he wears so they can be successful like him, what they did to cause their celebrity relationship to fall through… What I can’t help but wonder is this: If we didn’t have the media telling us so many of these intimate details, would the victim’s lives be totally different? Does the media affect the outcome? And how much isn’t getting turned up that could be? Applying my questions to the Stewart-Pattinson-Sanders disaster: This “affair” came to light whenever the Paparazzi published some photos earlier this month that led to interviews and questions which Stewart and Sanders had to answer to. Okay, maybe they could’ve walked away, but the tension in their relationships? That question of what if, what if this isn’t just the Paparazzi? What if there’s something really going on and you’re not ducking out of the limelight because you don’t feel like dealing with it? You’re ducking because you’ve been caught? So Sanders and Stewart have got to explain something. In the meantime, Ross and Pattinson are getting pushed for answers and suspicions. More and more turns up and so some small tidbits of what might have been happening spill out with more photos. Suddenly, the media twists words into whatever it wants them to say. Those pictures of Kristen hugging Rupert, what if, just what if, that was a happy hug about her success? Nothing more? Pictures can catch you in the most awkward times… I know that as a dancer because I could be doing all the right motions, but catch me mid-step and I look like I’m falling. I’m not saying that Kristen didn’t do anything because I don’t know. And quite frankly, I don’t give a damn. I think the media should just burn in hell and let people be people. How would you feel if your boyfriend/girlfriend was seen hugging someone else and you woke up to find the front page of the newspaper with “scandal” and your pictures plastered all over it? Then you have strangers pounding on your door and blocking your threshold, trying to catch one word from your mouth or one photo of your stressed expression? Regardless of what Kristen did or didn’t do, I’m sure the media will find a way to tear apart everyone’s relationships and marr their reputations… at least until something more entertaining comes along. In the meantime, Kristen has still been periodically tweeting (about things unrelated to Rob or the affair), and Rob last tweeted July 19th about the TCAs – his first tweet in a couple of months. (Curious to read his feed maybe? I’d feel sick seeing all of the comments, good or bad.) However, there is also rumored talk that Rob was about to propose to Kristen. In this article http://globalgrind.com/entertainment/robert-pattinson-marry-propose-kristen-stewart-moved-out-details, they supposedly reveal from an “inside source” Rob’s secret motives. But here’s the thing – they got this scoop from this “inside source” quote: “Robert hoped to marry Kristen and was making preparations to spring a proposal before she admitted cheating. He had bought the house in Los Angeles to be their home and saw them staying there for a long time. Now Rob is angry – h’es left the mansion and not spoken to her since. They have exchanged heated text messages only.” Okay, “making preparations”. That could mean exactly what the article is saying, that he was about to propose. But it could also just mean he is serious about the relationship and down the road… … … My point is, the media snags any credible or non-credible bit of information, takes it out of context, and creates a new drama that stresses celebrity relationships and destroys people’s trust for one another. It’s the same as gossip in school, or rumors on campus. Except it’s much worse. It’s your career, your life, your reputation, and everyone who does or doesn’t know you sees that tainted image everywhere you go. My advice: Liberty, do what you gotta do. Rupert, grow up. Kristen, duck out of the limelight and get your life together. Rob, as with Liberty, do what you gotta do and make those decisions based off of reality and not any media-inspired garbage. Sadly, no matter what these couples decide to do, they’re still going to be judged for their choices. My advice to them as a whole: Cross your fingers that something enormous will happen. And, no, I don’t mean World War III – that doesn’t hit home enough for today’s society. I mean, pray that some other celebrity couple gets a divorce or that Miley Cyrus does something stupid again. And good luck.